28 Mar What is love?
There is no question about it: Love is one of the most perverted and most misunderstood subjects. That is why it so important to understand God’s definition of love and not our own!
Our human definition of love causes much of the pain in our lives. To approach love from an unbiblical perspective is almost like a starving man finding a poisonous berry that has a sweet taste. So he eats it refusing to believe it is poisonous until it makes him sick.
Yet our deep need to love and be loved compels us to eat again and again. We will end up in a cycle of what I call “toxic love”. Toxic love is a poisonous kind of “love”. It gives to get. It is selfish and driven by manipulation. This violates God’s definition of love.
The classic verses in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 describes God’s definition of love.
“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”
For a moment forget that you don’t love like this and stop feeling guilty. It is not about your love! This is a description of how God loves you and expressed it in Jesus Christ. His love gives freely and is not based on our performance. His love doesn’t manipulate us. His love doesn’t violate our free will.
Make it personal as you reflect on this today: Jesus is patient and kind towards me. He is sacrificially unselfish in His love towards me; always thinking the best of me, not rude or vindictive. He is always there for me whether I fail or succeed. His love never fails. His faithful love endures forever.